Attachment styles and parenting

Relation of parenting child abuse based on attachment styles, parenting styles, and parental addictions

Introduction

The worldwide problem of Child abuse (CA) has serious consequences and traumatic experiences. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), CA is any interaction that results in actual harm and is largely under the control of a strong or trusted parent or guardian (Lueger-Schuster et al., ). CA or child maltreatment means any kind of child mistreatment that is psychologically harmful based on social criteria and the opinion of experts; that is, any action that negatively affects the child’s behavioral, cognitive, physical, and emotional functioning; such as constant humiliation, neglect, insulting, beating, cursing the child and sexual molestation (Babakhanlou & Beattie, ). Evidence shows that different types of abuse are significantly related; therefore, when a person experiences a particular type of abuse, he or she is more likely to experience another type of abuse (Dorfman et al., ; Vrolijk-Bosschaart et al., ).

Early parent-child relationships (PCR) and traumatic childhood events play an important role in the formation of personality disorders. The PCR gives the child a framework for interacting with others (Quchani et al., ). Childhood traumas resulted from traumatic ACEs in childhood have short-term (physical (Vrolijk-Bosschaart et al., ) and psychosocial (Allen, ; Lewis et al., ; Vrolijk-Bosschaart et al., ) and long-term (psychiatric disorders such as depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, isolationism, and latent violence) consequences (Nesi et al., ; Righy et al., ; Vrolijk-Bosschaart et al., ; Haider et al., ). They have poor academic performance and have difficulty in social relationships (Alzahrani et al., ; Wang et al., ). They are distrustful of others and, as a result, suffer from feelings of inferiority, inadequacy, negative self-concept, and failure (Babakhanlou & Beattie, ). During adolescence, they experie

Secure attachment style

A Parent&#;s Guide to Attachment Theory

When you think about when you first became a parent. If you connect back to those early days, maybe you felt pressure around having a good bond. When I think about having a good bond or when the parent-child bond or the attachment bond comes up, I tend to see it shared through certain lenses.

These lenses can make you feel like you&#;re in it or you&#;re out of it, like you&#;re either doing it or you&#;re not doing it.

So what I&#;ve seen is to have a good bond, I must do certain things:

Breastfeed
Co-sleep
Not let the child cry
Not have plastic toys
Read to them before bedtime
stay and hold space when they&#;re upset
Deny my own wants and needs and put my child first above mine.
Give up who I was to become this parent.

I see it, I see it on social media, I see it in my clients, I see it in mainstream media, I see it in TV shows and movies, I see it on the playground. All of these things are categorized into the binary: these are the good things to do if you&#;re going to be a good parent and have a good bond, and these are the bad things you&#;re going to do that are going to harm the bond and harm your child.

I think, what if people don&#;t fit into these categories? This leads us to this prescriptive model, which leads us into actually fueling anxieties and a lot of misbeliefs and misunderstandings about fostering a good parent-child bond because we start to focus on the shoulds and the should nots. This is what a good parent should do. This is what a good parent should not do.

I am wondering where this list came from. Whose list is this? Is this list applicable to all families and cultures worldwide? So, I did a quick Google search on parenting styles worldwide.

Parenting Styles Worldwide

This comes from Verywell Family, a source I trust, as they fact-check and provide their sources. This will be important later when I discuss the differences between attachment parenting and attachment theor

Abstract

Attachment theory is one of the most popular and empirically grounded theories relating to parenting. The purpose of the present article is to review some pertinent aspects of attachment theory and findings from attachment research. Attachment is one specific aspect of the relationship between a child and a parent with its purpose being to make a child safe, secure and protected. Attachment is distinguished from other aspects of parenting, such as disciplining, entertaining and teaching. Common misconceptions about what attachment is and what it is not are discussed. The distinction between attachment and bonding is provided. The recognized method to assess infant-parent attachment, the Strange Situation procedure, is described. In addition, a description is provided for the four major types of infant-parent attachment, ie, secure, insecure-avoidant, insecure-resistant and insecure-disorganized. The antecedents and consequences of each of the four types of infant-parent attachment are discussed. A special emphasis is placed on the description of disorganized attachment because of its association with significant emotional and behavioural problems, and poor social and emotional outcomes in high-risk groups and in the majority of children who have disorganized attachment with their primary caregiver. Practical applications of attachment theory and research are presented.

Keywords: Attachment, Attachment relationships, Infant-parent attachment

Abstract

La théorie de l’attachement est l’une des théories les plus populaires et les plus empiriques à être reliée au rôle parental. Le présent article vise à examiner certains aspects pertinents de la théorie de l’attachement et certaines observations tirées des recherches sur l’attachement. L’attachement est un aspect précis de la relation entre un enfant et un parent, dont l’objectif consiste à ce que l’enfant se sente en sécurité, sécurisé et protégé. L’attachement est différencié d’autres aspects du rôle

Attachment style quiz

Attachment styles in relationships

Avoidant attachment style

4 Types of Attachment Styles

Attachment styles are characterized by different ways of interacting and behaving in relationships. During early childhood, these attachment styles center on how children and parents interact. In adulthood, attachment styles describe attachment patterns in romantic relationships.

The concept of attachment styles grew from attachment theory and the research that emerged throughout the s and s. Today, psychologists typically recognize four main attachment styles: secure, ambivalent, avoidant, and disorganized.

At a Glance

Attachment styles are patterns that emerge in our earliest emotional bonds with caregivers. These early attachment styles play an important role in child development and also influence attachment patterns in adult relationships. Knowing more about which style you have (secure, ambivalent, avoidant, or disorganized) can help you better recognize the challenges you might face in your romantic relationships.

What Is Attachment?

Attachment is a special emotional relationship that involves an exchange of comfort, care, and pleasure. The roots of research on attachment began with Freud's theories about love, but another researcher named John Bowlby is usually credited as the father of attachment theory.

John Bowlby devoted extensive research to attachment, describing it as a "lasting psychological connectedness between human beings." Bowlby shared the psychoanalytic view that early experiences in childhood are important for influencing development and behavior later in life.

Our early attachment styles are established in childhood through the infant/caregiver relationship.

In addition to this, Bowlby believed that attachment had an evolutionary component; it aids in survival. He believed that this propensity to make strong emotional bonds with specific individuals was an essential part of human nature.

Characteristics of Attachment

Bowlby believed that there are four di